There is a time in our lives, when a woman has to make a decision – possibly the most important psychic decision of her future life – and that is whether to be bitter or not.
A body who has lived a long time accumulates debris. It cannot be avoided. If a woman will return to the instinctual nature instead of sinking into bitterness, she will be revivified, reborn. But first there has to be a cleansing.
Descansos are symbols that mark a death. To make descansos means taking a look at your life and marking where the small deaths, las muertes chiquitas, and the big deaths, las muertes grandotas, have taken place.
Be gentle with yourself and make the descansos, the resting places for the aspects of yourself that were on their way to somewhere but never arrived.
There is a lot to be said for pinning things to the earth so they don’t follow us around. There is a lot to be said for laying them to rest.
Clarissa Pinkola Estes
Women who run with the wolves